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Empty-Nesters-To-Be Need To Seek Romantic Spark

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Dr.Braccio: My husband and I just had the final high school graduation party for anamur bayan escort our youngest child. We’ll be empty nesters in September. Our concern is that we’ve lost ourselves as a couple over the years. We get along fine but lack closeness emotionally and physically. Our priorities were our children and they are all doing well. We want to get close but quite candidly are awkward even when we talk about ourselves and feelings let alone anything more intimate. We want to love each other like we did but have no idea what to do. Our pastor has suggested a marriage encounter weekend. What do you think we should do?

Answer

You need to put the love back into your marriage. With the two of you in agreement that you “want to love each other like you did”, nothing can stop you but yourselves. The key is to find a strategy to start.

A marriage encounter weekend is a great idea. You can go back to the beginning of your relationship through discussion and written dialogue. Begin to fan the embers to put the magic of emotional and physical intimacy back into your relationship. After being loving and successful parents, refocus the energy and emotion you selflessly used to help them back into yourselves.

The following are some suggestions to help:

1.  Because it is hard to say things of emotion to each other in person, you can begin to write notes of endearment to each other. If this is too hard, find cards and poems that express your feelings. This type of dialoguing can be most effective.

2.  Try to express feelings of endearment to each other when possible in an attempt to draw closer together. Even if initially awkward, set aside times to do this.

3.  Hug and touch each other in caring ways in an attempt to develop more and more intimacy. You do not know what you have been missing.

4.  Reminisce about when you fell in love and how it felt. Try to rekindle the old feelings. As an old Romberg song goes, “Golden days in the sunshine of our happy     youth”.

5.  Revisit places you were at as lovers that can help bring back the old memories.

6.  Do new things to build a new base where emotional and physical intimacy can develop. You two are in a rut where intimacy has been lacking. A trip to Mackinaw Island, Florida or even a local hotel for the night could be helpful.

7.  Share romantic movies and love ballads together.  Listen to popular music from the past that can conjure up loving memories.

8.  If in spite of your best efforts you cannot bring the old feelings back, you may find an experienced therapist could be helpful.

I would say prognosis is very good for you two. You were great lovers and then became great parents. Now is the time to bring back the intimate emotional and physical love you had and again deserve. Go for it!

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Kids Want Their Parents, Not “Stuff”

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Dr.Braccio: We always try silifke eskort ilanları to give everything we can to our two children and give them opportunities we never had. Granted, we’ve not always gone to as many of their events as our parents did and as we have wanted because of our heavy work schedules, but both of us have always been involved as best we can and try to be around to help. What hurts us is that both children told us that they feel they’re second in our lives and even though they love and appreciate their grandparents, they feel they are asked to do our work. They want us around them more. We’ve tried to talk to them and explain the work situation, but both are not happy with us. Our parents feel we need to slow down in our careers and have more quality time with the kids as they did with us. We wonder if they’re brats or if we’re the problem. What’s wrong here? What’s missing that makes two early teens so upset?

Answer

Let me begin by complimenting you for trying to give every opportunity to your children that you never had. This is a noble goal. What is missing is the bonding with your children that you had with your parents. Ironically, even though you had less, your relationship with your parents was better than what you both have with your children. To have “things” is wonderful, but they do not make up for involved parenting, family bonding and the love that comes from close family relationships.

Your children want more time with both of you. Your parents are right when they say you need more “quality time” with your children. They want you more involved in their lives. They want you at their events and as integral parts of their lives. That they have not chosen peer relationships over both of you is a tribute to your parents and very positive in this day and age. They have worked to maintain the sense of family with your children as they instilled it in both of you. If they were brats, they would want more things and not more time with both of you.

A problem is that you want your parents to take on your role with the children. Your children have a legitimate concern here. Accept this and realize you need to take on the role of active and involved parents now or forever lose this role. Also remember in a few years they will be on their own. If you want a long term close relationship, you need to cement the bonding they obviously want.

You obviously have a strong sense of family and great love for your children. They obviously love both of you. What they are crying out for is more love in the form of your time and less things. To honor their request would be a demonstration of the love you have for them.

A good suggestion would be for you two to examine what is important in life and make plans accordingly. You need to look at your careers and time commitments in relation to family commitments. Finding the balance is a problem for many persons. I am sure your love will give you direction.

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