Question:
Dr.Braccio: My husband is konya merkez genç kızlar really down. He has given his all for over thirty years to a company. His job took priority over everybody and everything. He was working all the time. He went into Oakland County three days a week and was everywhere he was needed in the region. He was rarely around at the events of our now adult children and the same is again true with his grandchildren. I overlooked it because he was a good provider, loved us in his own way and he thrived so much in his work. He couldn’t wait for our short vacations to end. Now he has lost his title, is two levels lower in reorganization and no longer attends cabinet meetings. Two of his old employees are between him and the CEO. He was told by the CEO that these were changing times and he had to adapt to the new regime or take a good retirement that has temporarily been offered to him for the next three months. In a family discussion over the weekend, his sons and I want him to retire. Our family friend and his physician has him on Prozac and told him to retire and begin to enjoy his wonderful family. He broke down and said he doesn’t know what to do. He knows they want him out. He says this job has been so much to him. What do you think?
Answer:
I agree he needs to retire and move on. At this stage of his career, to accept a two level demotion does not seem reasonable. I also agree with the family physician that even though late, now is the time to “enjoy his wonderful family”. Family can be his number one priority. This can be a great opportunity for him to enjoy events with you, his children and grandchildren. That he has not lost you and his family over the years is a great tribute to you and the overall family.
Life has many ups and downs. That is the nature of this ever changing world. The cards dealt to your husband after so many dedicated years must be painful emotionally. As too often happens, your husband has had a unilateral total commitment to his job that has not been reciprocal. This will be very hard for him to accept; however, he must do this and use this reality as a bridge to a new life. He can see you are still totally committed to him and it is time for him to do the same. That can be the positive outcome from this situation.
In fairness to him, he probably believes by being a good provider that he was upholding his family responsibilities. To some degree that is true.
Depression on a continuing basis can be expected as he gets over this problem. Once he decides to retire and makes the mental shift to a new life, he predictably will begin to feel better. For now, his search is for new meaning in life.
At a practical level, it is clear the company is going in a new direction and they want your husband out. To not accept this and try to stay on with the company could lead to worse humiliation, depression and loss of self-esteem.
Even though it may have no merit, he might feel better if he talks to an attorney to determine if there is an unfair labor practice occurring.