July 15, 2026-
We are today specifically talking about young men rejecting couples intimacy. It is a phenomenon that most persons are not familiar with and have probably not thought about very much if at all. A starting point is that 60% of young men under 30 are single. Sexual intimacy was at a 30 years low a few years ago and this trend seems to be continuing. In the years 2022-2023, 24% of men aged 22 through 34 reported they had had no sex with a partner in the past year. It also is reported that 76 to 87% of men 18 to 29 years old are regularly consuming pornography. Another interesting reported situation is that men between the ages of 20 and 30 are spending less time outdoors than prison inmates. It also was reported that there are men who use porn who tend to report less satisfaction with real live sex. And on top of all this, the lack of interaction skills that were not developed during Covid, when persons were often relegated to just using the Internet for communication, adds another interesting dimension to this situation. Another factor is that many men appear to find Internet excitement and self gratification more satisfying, less complicated and less risky than trying to be in a relationship with a partner with mutually satisfying intimacy. A problem with all of this information is that people arguably need interactions with people for good mental health and this trend is not good for men and certainly leads to a much smaller pool of men for women who desire to marry let alone have the ability to have children and hopefully love generating homes. Reasons given for this current situation in addition to Covid would include that many women also are not that ready to be in an intimate couples relationship as they are striving for educational and personal goals. There also are men who grew up in dysfunctional homes who have no desire to be part of one. There also is the generally unreasonable fear by some men that women will lie about them in any sexual relationship and they choose not to be involved. I personally have heard young men fearful of being falsely accused of inappropriate sexual activities in an intimate relationship that might go in a negative way. Even if this is not reasonable, if a man has this belief and decides to act on it, it can lead to a lack of couples intimacy. A problem with possibly changing this whole lack of couples intimacy situation with men is that there is no easy solution if one is of the belief that men are better off in a couples relationship with good intimacy that results in children and potentially a happy and loving family. At present, there does not appear to be a great awareness of the situation or any desire to change it.