July 15, 2026-
We are today specifically talking about young men rejecting couples intimacy. It is a phenomenon that most persons are not familiar with and have probably not thought about very much if at all. A starting point is that 60% of young men under 30 are single. Sexual intimacy was at a 30 years low a few years ago and this trend seems to be continuing. In the years 2022-2023, 24% of men aged 22 through 34 reported they had had no sex with a partner in the past year. It also is reported that 76 to 87% of men 18 to 29 years old are regularly consuming pornography. Another interesting reported situation is that men between the ages of 20 and 30 are spending less time outdoors than prison inmates. It also was reported that there are men who use porn who tend to report less satisfaction with real live sex. And on top of all this, the lack of interaction skills that were not developed during Covid, when persons were often relegated to just using the Internet for communication, adds another interesting dimension to this situation. Another factor is that many men appear to find Internet excitement and self gratification more satisfying, less complicated and less risky than trying to be in a relationship with a partner with mutually satisfying intimacy. A problem with all of this information is that people arguably need interactions with people for good mental health and this trend is not good for men and certainly leads to a much smaller pool of men for women who desire to marry let alone have the ability to have children and hopefully love generating homes. Reasons given for this current situation in addition to Covid would include that many women also are not that ready to be in an intimate couples relationship as they are striving for educational and personal goals. There also are men who grew up in dysfunctional homes who have no desire to be part of one. There also is the generally unreasonable fear by some men that women will lie about them in any sexual relationship and they choose not to be involved. I personally have heard young men fearful of being falsely accused of inappropriate sexual activities in an intimate relationship that might go in a negative way. Even if this is not reasonable, if a man has this belief and decides to act on it, it can lead to a lack of couples intimacy. A problem with possibly changing this whole lack of couples intimacy situation with men is that there is no easy solution if one is of the belief that men are better off in a couples relationship with good intimacy that results in children and potentially a happy and loving family. At present, there does not appear to be a great awareness of the situation or any desire to change it.

July 7, 2026- There are many possible negative outcomes of poor parenting. The particular outcomes will
vary from person to person, even if persons seem to come from similar circumstances, because
each individual is different and finds different mechanisms to deal with what is happening to
them in a home with poor parenting. It also is true each individual is unique and encounters life
and reacts to it differently. It also is true that resources available to the person that they utilize
for their own well-being varies widely for each individual coming from a home with poor
parenting. Even though there are varying degrees and acts of poor parenting, the key areas of
poor parenting would include such factors as emotional, physical, and sexual abuse. Included
would be neglect and parental lack of any sense of family care and love. While sexual and
physical abuse may predictably lead to greater negative outcomes, emotional abuse and
neglect can be psychologically devastating to the person. There are many possible negative
outcomes of poor parenting. Common outcomes are anxiety, depression, poor self-esteem,
aggression, defiance, fear, no backbone to defend self, perfectionism, poor attachment,
indecisiveness, cannot trust, fear of intimacy, poor interpersonal relationships, poor academic
performance, substance abuse, delinquency , inappropriate sexual activities, and worst of all,
continuing the same parental dysfunctional behaviors with their own children and partners in
their lives. Positive factors to counter poor parenting would include relationships with stable
family members, relationships with stable persons, caring teachers, caring coaches, caring
clergy, good friends, team member relationships, good role models, and any personal
experience that can counter the negativity in their home. If you have come from such a home
and feel you have been damaged emotionally by your experiences at home when growing up, it
is never a time to accept this is just the way you are and nothing can be done. Through a
combination of self-love, replacing negative thoughts with positive thoughts, developing
relationships with people who are positive and can care for you, joining spiritual or other groups
that offer camaraderie and caring, and potentially seeking out an experienced therapist to help
you in your road to better self-esteem are things you can do to compensate and even throw out
the negativity that has resulted in your life because of poor parenting.

June 30, 2026- Are you bored in life and nothing excites you? Do you go through the motions of life, but the fun is gone? Do you find yourself alive, but with no emotional spark? If so, then you are missing out on what a person needs in order to be happy. I will add this lack of motivation can happen in a life that most persons would consider very positive. It does not matter what someone else might think, the important thing is if you find you have a lack of motivation and want to do something about it. Before we talk about things to do to regain motivation in your life, let us talk about some of the things that cause someone to lose motivation. They would include a person being bored, being rudderless and going in no particular direction in life, being depressed and anxious, having too much routine in their life, spending too much time watching television or digital time, not taking care of self emotionally and physically, a lack of spirituality, and simply accepting your life with lack of motivation is something you cannot change. If this is happening to you, you can make changes so you can overcome your lack of motivation in life. They would include investing some time to figure out what you are doing with your time, initially set some small changes to your life that you feel could be helpful and you can do, gradually add more changes, remember your passions and interactions that were exciting in the past, seek spirituality to give more purpose to your life, do things that are fun and different from what you are doing, walk and exercise to keep the body in good shape, keep your mind active with puzzles, reading and other things to keep the mind going, get outside and connect with nature, get some nutrition back in your life and make sure you are eating healthy, get enough sleep, finding new people or groups to add to your life, spend time helping others and being grateful for what you have, limit television and digital time, look at your job and see if you need a new position, look and see if you need more education for a new job or career you desire, be accepting of yourself and your feelings but determined you are going to get some motivation back in your life, and as needed, seek out a trained therapist to help you get more motivation and direction in life.