November 3, 2026- Not necessarily. It depends on the circumstances. It is reasonable for a parent lying with their
child to read, hug or share some non-sexual time together of affection. It also can be reasonable
for the child to sleep with a parent under certain circumstances. It becomes a problem when it
interferes with the child’s emotional development to be able to become independent or can
interfere in the parent’s ability to have their personal life and be able to sleep in peace. Positive
and emotionally healthy situations to lie and sleep with your child would include giving support
and encouragement to a child who has had a bad day, upset after a nightmare, does not feel
well or just needs some quality time to hug and express non-sexual love and caring with a
parent. It becomes a problem if the parent is seeking emotional affection that needs to be
coming from an adult and not your child. It is a major problem if the child is afraid to sleep alone
and can have panic attacks and separation anxiety that could lead to very stressful and poor
psychological development of the child, and if not controlled, can lead to codependency.
Codependency is very bad and damaging emotionally to both the parent and the child. It leads
to a situation where the child becomes psychologically debilitated from a personality and
developmental level and the parent becomes equally debilitated personally and developmentally
by taking on all the burdens of the child to the point that each inappropriately depends on the
other in order to function emotionally. This is very counterproductive and will end up being a
disaster emotionally and personally for both. This codependency can begin early and can
extend late into the life of both persons. The overall point here is that it can be fine for a child to
lie and sleep with a parent under appropriate circumstances from ages 11 and under, and it can
be very inappropriate. I have given examples when it is appropriate and when it is not
appropriate.

October 27, 2027- Biographical Pain is a term used by British Professor and gerontologist, Malcolm Johnson, to describe the psychological and spiritual suffering that older persons can experience when they reflect back on the experiences and personal interactions they had in their lives and they do not
have closure. This causes psychological distress. They recognize they have a limited time on
earth and before they die they fear they will not be able to have the closure they desire on many
things. These include such things as not having said goodbye to persons, behaving contrary to
spiritual or moral beliefs, wondering if a parent or someone else really loved them, why did they
philander, why did they treat persons poorly, broken promises that cannot be resolved, why was
a parent or someone close to them so mean or cruel to them, general regrets about life, wanting
answers from persons who long ago died and never can be answered, unfulfilled dreams that
never were appropriately sought, and wanting to say they are sorry to persons no longer alive.
These and other situations can result in true urgency to close things out in their lives on a
positive note. Biographical Pain can occur in persons regardless of any successes they may
have experienced. Causes for this Biographical Pain would include feeling guilty, needing
answers that cannot be answered, negative self evaluation that cannot be changed, long-term
guilt, long-term grief, believing their life has been wasted, they can no longer make decisions to
make their life meaningful and bad relationships with family and friends that cannot be resolved.
Persons who are relatively young and living their lives day to day in an active way are clearly
not thinking about the end of life when they may have so many questions and concerns that
need to be answered that have not been answered and cannot be answered. Good advice to
not have this situation happen to you is to try to resolve questions that you have in the present.
Try to get them answered as best you can. If you did not do this and you find yourself in the
twilight of your life and having many concerns that you would like to have resolved, it can be
helpful to find a trusting person or more that you can discuss your feelings and try to get them
all out and resolved as best you can at this time. It also could be helpful to meet with an
experienced therapist to discuss these concerns and try to reduce the emotional and spiritual
pain you may be experiencing. Many persons who have spiritual beliefs do not focus on them
much or enough during their lives. This often changes as the person nears the end of their time
on earth. When this occurs, meeting with a pastor or priest could also be helpful to resolve
spiritual concerns you feel need to be resolved.

October 20, 2026- Persons with ADHD typically present with some combination of risk taking, not thinking before doing things, impulsivity, lack of focus, inattention, procrastination, high energy, hyper focusing, high passion, multitasking, diverse thinking, creativity, complex problem solving, anger and hyper activity. If not controlled and harnessed, these types of characteristics can lead to persons having problems being successful in work, personal and social interactions. If controlled and directed in positive ways, the person with ADHD can be successful and have a very successful life. One needs to only look at someone like Bill Gates to see how this can be true in an exceptional case. We can add to this list with previously great football player Terry Bradshaw and Olympic gold medalists Michael Phelps and Simone Biles. While every person with ADHD is different and that must be taken into account when choosing a career, successful careers for a person with ADHD would include a police officer, correctional officer, emergency dispatcher, military personnel, special forces, EMT or emergency room nurse or doctor, firefighter, skilled trades such as electrician, plumber, carpenter, mason or landscaper, etc., journalist, high pressure chef, high variety and varied work experiences, inventor, business owner, high risk capitalist, and a financial advisor. The important thing is to be able to channel the unique skills that someone with ADHD has to have the person be as successful as they can be. The potential creativity of a mind that is always restless and ready to look at things from many different angles can lead to success in life and even great achievement. Problems occur when the person with ADHD does not channel their abilities in the right direction and they can feel lost in life and often stuck in relationships and work environments that fail. Even worse would be substance abuse and problems with the law. In many cases, a combination of medication and therapy can help someone overcome potential problems with the characteristics of ADHD. The positive thing about many ADHD characteristics is that moderate to great success is possible if a person is able to channel them in the right direction.