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Dr. Braccio Talks on the “Tony Conley Radio Show” on 1320 a.m. in Lansing on 1/7/14

As a Psychologist, Dr.Braccio gives reflections on the astounding Rose Bowl mersin esc Experience. It didn’t matter where you were. Members of the SPARTAN NATION were everywhere.  He talked to many of them, even a couple in their late eighties that have been to all five SPARTAN Rose Bowls. They plan to go to the next one too! The beach towns of Manhattan Beach, Hermosa Beach, Santa Monica Beach, Venice Beach, Redondo Beach and Laguna Beach were loaded with Spartans from everywhere.  It was an astonishing experience that no one will forget who was there. The stadium was 65 percent SPARTY and the crowd was excited and then delirious with joy after Ellsworth made the key stop and then even more delirious with joy as the seconds ticked off and the win happened. Then no one wanted to leave. Tears of satisfaction filled the ROSE BOWL.  It was amazing!  Dr. Braccio says as one who lived in Manhattan Beach for a number of years, he never imagined LA could be taken over by Spartans.  But, they did.  GO GREEN!

As an aside, the California Ocean and landscape are perfect for making hypnosis recordings to help people.

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Dr. Braccio Talks on the “Tony Conley Radio Show” on 1320 a.m. in Lansing on 12/17/13

 

Dr Braccio and Tony continue a discussion on what needs to be done to stop the continuing disturbances that occur near the campus of Michigan State University after major sporting events. Dr.Braccio questions why with such a predictable history to draw upon that there is not konya merkez escort more of a police presence in a relatively small physical area.

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Dr. Braccio Talks about the Festive Atmosphere in Indianapolis at the Big Ten Championship on the “Tony Conley Radio Show” on 1320 a.m. in Lansing on 12/10/13

 

Dr.Braccio talks about the festive atmosphere mersineskort in Indianapolis before, during and after the Big Ten Championship game.  They discuss the psychological excitement of returning to the Rose Bowl after 26 years.  They also discuss the booing of Big Ten Commissioner, Jim Delany, by MSU fans when he came to speak after the game.

 

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Timid Teen Reflects Parent’s Reluctance To Try New Things

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Dr.Braccio:  My fourteen year old daughter can torture me emotionally but is so escort kızlar mersin insecure in her life.  She never wants to try anything new.  I also must work more at this.  When I push her into something like the Spanish Club, she enjoys it and even thrives in it while I’m worn out from the struggle to get her to finally go.  In spite of all I try, the scenario is always the same.  What’s wrong and what can I do differently?

Answer

Your daughter has low self-esteem in relation to trying new things.  She is comfortable with the known and predictable.  The unknown scares her.  The scenario you have developed between the two of you appears to be how she changes.  The problem is that there is no spontaneity and the process and resulting change for her is a very slow and burdensome process.  Additionally, you get worn out emotionally and it puts real wear and tear on your relationship.

Until you can implement some of the following suggestions on how to help both you and your daughter, you probably need to use the current model to make sure some changes occur.  Even though I say this, the emphasis needs to be on the new suggestions below.

1.  Encourage her whenever possible to try new things.  Use your whole environment.  This can occur when you see something on TV, in newspapers, in magazines, as you walk in your life, etc. that you can build on to discuss with her with the goal of helping her see  how it relates to her and how she might try it.

2.  Be on guard to always immediately applaud her anytime she thinks about and/or tries to do   anything new.  Each time may potentially be the catalyst for a major overall change in her life.

3.  Place her in situations where she can take a leadership or proactive role.  Church, family and community activities lend themselves to this.

4.  Model a willingness to try new things.  Demonstrate the excitement that can come from trying new things.  Because you must work on this also, it will be a good test for you as well as her.

5.  Try to set up events and that would allow her to explore new things.  Examples would include picnics, trips, extensive walking, amusement parks, church/youth activities, art class, cake decorating class, sewing class, swimming, tennis and soccer.

Even if she continues for a period of time to have a hard time changing, hopefully she can begin to see the excitement and fun that comes from spontaneously trying new things.  That both of you could do it together would be great fun in a positive mother/daughter bonding situation.

Any questions or comments would be appreciated.

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Five Ways to Reduce Everyday Anxiety

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Dr.Braccio:  I don’t know silifke escort numaraları what’s been happening to me.  I’ve always been anxious but now I seem to be worrying about everything.  I even worry about my worrying.  My mother and her sisters are just like me.  My kids and husband have told me to try to settle down, but I can’t.  I seem to be worrying about a lot of things and can’t get the worries out of my mind.  It’s nothing in particular but can be anything.  I worry about the health of my family, my husband’s job, the education of my children and even the effects of global warming on us.  I get tense, irritable, can’t concentrate and focus on my worrying and often can’t sleep well.  This makes me feel down and immature.  I feel I’m getting worse.  What do I have and what can I do about it?

Answer

You appear to have “Generalized Anxiety Disorder”.  This is an anxiety disorder that covers a wide range of concerns.  It is often written as GAD.  It can make one feel uneasy and worrying about various things or just a kind of foreboding that something will go wrong.  “What Iffing” and “catrastrophising” are common characteristics.  The present is often ruined as the person worries about the future.

GAD is quite common with a frequency rate of around 3 to 4%.  As you can see, you are not alone as millions suffer the same condition.

The cause is debatable, but probably ranges from bad learning and being around worriers to a chemical makeup that gives one a tendency to worry or a combination of them.  The reaction is physical and the result is an ongoing anxiety that is draining on the person and those around him or her.  As in your case, this can lead to some level of depression because the constant worrying and physical uneasiness can make one feel down, hopeless and plain worn out emotionally and physically.

Some key things to do to address your anxiety would be as follows:

1.  Learn to relax to reduce anxiety.  Just breathing in and out deeply for a few minutes can be helpful.  Humans have done this over the centuries  to help them relax.   You also can use self-hypnosis, yoga, meditation or any other system to help you relax.  Just to slowly say the word …..r—e—l—a—x….. can be relaxing.

2.  Medication can help to calm you down.  While this can be helpful in the short run, the key is to stop your anxiety naturally and it can be done for the most part by just changing how you look at life and its everyday occurrences.

3.  Control what you think.  This deceptively difficult task is very hard for most people to do.  Begin by consciously not thinking about “what ifs “ and “catastrophic” thoughts.  Recognize that all the worrying in the world will not resolve a problem.  When you have a concern to resolve, plan a way to have the best chance for success.  See life as having risks but put risks in perspective.  Try to see life as an exciting and individual adventure for you to experience rather than worrying about everything that might happen.

4.  Use cognitive restructuring statements to change anxiety producing statements to positive non-anxiety ones.  For example, say “The kids are out and nothing bad will happen to them” versus “I know they will get in an accident”.  Another would be to say, “I’ll do just fine when I present my job report” versus  “I know I’ll get nervous and look stupid when I present my job report”.

5.  Try to focus on enjoying the present and not worrying about yesterday or “what iffing” about the rest of the day and tomorrow.  In an often unpredictable world, plan as best you can, prepare for problems and enjoy your life as you live it.

Expect change to come slowly as you reduce anxiety by trying the above strategies.  Success will come and you will lead a much happier life.

If after trying the above, you feel you are not improving or improving to the level you desire, you may find it helpful to seek an experienced therapist with anxiety disorders.

Any questions and comments would be appreciated.

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Dr. Braccio Talks about The Importance of Being Able to Say “No” on the “Tony Conley Radio Show” on 1320 a.m. in Lansing on 11/19/13

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The importance of being able to say “NO” without guilt or shame is a critical skill to develop.  Too many people konya merkez kadın numaraları get overwhelmed in life by always saying YES to requests or demands of others.  Dr. Braccio discusses the causes and solutions to this huge problem for millions of persons.

 

 

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Help Child Learn to Solve Her Problems

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Dr.Braccio:  We have a ten year old daughter’s teacher met with us and said our daughter feels we mersin esc don’t listen to her.  She told her teacher that when she wants to talk about a problem, we change the topic, minimize her feelings, baby her or solve the problem without her involvement. The school counselor agrees.

Answer

You need to be patient and let your daughter get her feelings out in a way she can both fully express herself and begin to solve problems on her own.  Neither of you allow this to happen.  You need to go from “pushy” to “laid back” when she wants to share her feelings and problems.

Fortunately, with your desire to help her and using a strategy called “Active Listening”, you can help her right now.

When we use “Active Listening”, we let the person get all of her or his feelings out in a safe environment where the person fully says how she or he feels.  In this environment, concerns are raised and the person can problem-solve.  When parents do this, it is offering safe harbor to the child to problem-solve and express feelings.

This is NOT an example of “Active Listening”:

Daughter: “I feel bad about the way Judy treats me.”

Parent:      “The heck with her, ignore her.”

Daughter: “But I feel bad when she says mean things to me”.

Parent:      “Don’t feel that way.  She’s just being bad and the heck with her”.

Daughter: “But….”

Parent:      “But nothing, eat something and you’ll feel better.  Nobody can be mean to my little baby.  Give me a hug”.

As you can see, the parent is not listening to her concerns and is minimizing the problem situation, her feelings and no solutions can occur for her in this environment.  She will actually feel worse.

This IS an example of “Active Listening”:

Parent:       “How are you today?”

Daughter:  “Not good”.

Parent:       “You do seem upset.  What happened?”

Daughter:  “ My friend Judy said a mean thing to me”.

Parent:       “How do you feel about that?”

Daughter:  “I’m hurt and upset.”

Parent:       “So, you’re really upset?”

Daughter:   “Yes.  I don’t like that from a friend.”

Parent:        “What are you going to do?”

Daughter:   “I’m gonna call her tonight and talk to her and say how I feel.”

Parent:        “Do you think that will work?”

Daughter:   “I guess so.  That’s how we deal with things like this.”

Parent:        “Sounds like a good idea.”

Daughter:   “Thanks mom.”

With effective “Active Listening” the following occurs:

1.  The feelings of the child are validated and heard in a safe problem-solving environment.

2.  Parents do not distract the child from addressing the problem.

3.  Parents do not intervene unless there is a danger or unreasonable abuse of the child.

4.  The parent only gives advice and solutions when necessary.

It appears you two are ready to make some changes and help your daughter.  To keep in contact with the teacher and school counselor seems reasonable.

Any questions or comments would be appreciated.

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Dr. Braccio Talks About How to Eliminate People Who Take Advantage of You on the “Tony Conley Radio Show” on 1320 a.m. in Lansing on 10/29/13

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Dr.Braccio talks to Tony on how to eliminate karatay escort people from your life when you help them and they are not there when you need them. Too many people who give too much must learn how to stop in effect being used by people they think that care for them. This is much harder to do than it seems.  Remember the “as thyself” in the wonderful biblical quote “Love Thy Neighbor as Thyself”.  Try to surround yourself where each nourishes each other personally and spiritually if so oriented.

 

 

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Resentment of ‘Takers’ is Justified

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Dr.Braccio:  With support from my husband, sister and God, the doctors tell me they believe I have karatay escort beaten colon cancer.  My concern is that my mother and one sister seemed so distant with me during the past year.  This also happened with a few friends.  The hurt came because I have always been there for all of them whenever there was a problem or a concern.  Even though my mother and sister are both immature selfish and I feel like the parent, I expected more from them.  But when I was in crisis, they were not only not there, but seemed to resent me for my severe health problem and my inability to console them on their issues.  Only one friend was honest enough to say she was used to me being a support to her and she had no emotional energy for me. A few unexpected persons out of the blue stepped up and helped me emotionally.  What’s wrong here and should I be upset?

Answer

The problem is that you gave too much emotionally to those who will not now reciprocate because they cannot or have no desire to do so.  You have every right to be upset.  When one gives so much as you have emotionally, it is only reasonable to assume others will give back when you are in need.  This would particularly be true with your mother and sister.  Apparently, their immaturity and selfishness are such that they chose to not be supportive to you during your crisis.  Some of your friends fit into this same category.

As painful and hurtful as this is to you emotionally, it is not that uncommon.  Too often, the world is divided into ”givers” and takers”.  You are a giver who has been surrounded by too many takers.  That this includes your own mother and sister must be particularly painful.  It also is true that a friendship is a like a wonderful and nourishing mirror where each person reflects understanding to the other.  Some of your relationships have not been true friendships.

It is fortunate you have spiritual beliefs.  They are so reinforcing and splendid in times of crisis.

A key concept for you in relationships is that you need to remember the wise statement that says you need to “love yourself” as well as “your neighbor”.  You have too often left “yourself” out of your relationships.  This is particularly true with people who will only take support but not give it back.

In the future, you need to determine who you want to be around.  A key standard would be to seek out persons with your capacity to reach out and help others. Then when you give, you know you are appreciated and the person will be there for you when needed.  You can begin this with the friends and family who stood by you during your ordeal as well as the persons who “stepped up and helped”.  They are like you and deserve your friendship.  Your husband and sister are good persons like you.

Any questions or comments would be appreciated.