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Dr. John H. Braccio talks with Dave Akerly of WILS on the “Morning Wake-Up With Dave Akerly” Radio Show, on 6/13/17 on WILS, 1320 a.m.in Lansing, Michigan about HOW TO CONTROL RAGE AND ANGER konya merkez escort IN A TOO OFTEN ANGRY WORLD. This is something important to more and more people every day. They do not address the macro world issues but rather the micro level of how individuals and family members can deal with rage and anger. A few things for individuals to do would include stop reading twitter and Facebook comments that make catastrophic predictions about people, groups, and organizations. Do the same with comments by some politicians and talking head experts who spew forth extreme negativity. In fact, take a break from 24 hour news and constant phone alerts on a regular basis. You also can turn off your phone for hours at a time. Dr. Braccio mentions deep relaxation, calming imagery, positive self-talk, positive affirmations, cognitive-restructuring, and hypnosis as techniques one can use to neutralize anger and rage. He also says there must be awareness that anger and rage are predictably self-destructive in the lives of countless individuals and most tragically, often also destructive for the individuals they love most.

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Dr. Braccio discusses “Critical Mindsets for Successful Athletes” on the “Morning Wake-Up With Dave Akerly” Radio Show on 3/8/16 on WILS, 1320 a.m. in Lansing, Michigan. What are some psychological skillsets/mindsets that are critical for athletes to reach their maximal athletic success? They are the same whether you are going to be an Olympic Gold Medalist or a seldom played team member.The goal is to be the best you can be konya merkez eskort as an athlete.

They discuss Denzel Valentine and how he has developed into maybe the best basketball player in the country. Even though few have the skill sets of Denzel, he has developed them as best he could. Each athlete needs to try to do the best possible to reach his or her potential. It is exceptionally hard to hit your peak as an athlete. Key factors are:

1.  Desire
2. Realistic Goals
3. Commitment
4. Self-Motivation
5. Learn from failure
6. Positive Self-Talk
7. Not give up
8. Keep perspective on sports and life

In many years working with athletes, we as psychologists do a lot of relaxation/training, hypnosis, and visualization techniques to help them develop the correct mindset to achieve to their potential.

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Dr. Braccio discusses “What makes a strong and healthy family that will last for the current and next generation” on the “Morning Wake-Up With Dave Akerly” Radio Show on 2/29/16 on WILS, 1320 a.m. in Lansing, Michigan. They talk about how to build strong and healthy families for the present and next generation.It is critical that family mersin eskort members become one and build traditions that will be treasured for a lifetime. Key factors are communication, sharing, commitment, modelling, spirituality, united in problem sharing, appreciation, and time together. Dave shared that his father’s parents died when he was young and he was taken in by other family members who gave him love and security. A successful nation needs strong and healthy families as it’s core.

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Dr. Braccio talks on the “Morning Wake-Up With Dave Akerly” Radio Show on 2/2/16 on WILS, 1320 a.m. in Lansing, Michigan. Dr.Braccio randomly found an obituary written by Stephen Kloosterman on Jennifer VanderStelt and was moved by her fight silifke escort numaraları with cancer that she lost on December 30, 2015. Her reported advice on a Facebook post is good advice for all of us whether at the highest or lowest ebb of our life on earth: THE SUN IS SHINING ON THIS BEAUTIFUL DAY. IT’S BEEN A DIFFICULT WEEK, BUT I AM NOT GIVING UP….PLEASE DO NOT TAKE YOUR HEALTH FOR GRANTED, LIVE IN THE PRESENT AND LET GO OF THE THINGS YOU CANNOT CHANGE. Too many people need to hear what this young woman told us in the midst of her losing but valiant battle with cancer. CARPE DIEM/SEIZE THE DAY is what the Roman Poet, Horace, advised us to do every day we have life on earth. Jennifer gives us the same advice 2000 years later.

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On 1/26/16, Dr.Braccio discusses on “The Drive With Jack Ebling” Radio Show with Jack Ebling and Graham Couch of the Lansing State Journal about how universities are taking football scholarship offers away from an athlete when another athlete is silifke eskort ilanları felt to be better. They also discuss how students do not honor commitments from universities. There is some discussion on how an early signing period might help resolve this problem on both sides.

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Dr. Braccio talks on the “Morning Wake-Up With Dave Akerly” Radio Show on 1/26/16 on WILS, 1320 a.m. in Lansing, Michigan. They discuss how women have historically been underdiagnosed with AD/HD and the harm this has psychologically caused when upset over their symptoms which has led to unnecessary anxiety and depression.

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Dr.Braccio: My husband and I just had the final high school graduation party for anamur bayan escort our youngest child. We’ll be empty nesters in September. Our concern is that we’ve lost ourselves as a couple over the years. We get along fine but lack closeness emotionally and physically. Our priorities were our children and they are all doing well. We want to get close but quite candidly are awkward even when we talk about ourselves and feelings let alone anything more intimate. We want to love each other like we did but have no idea what to do. Our pastor has suggested a marriage encounter weekend. What do you think we should do?

Answer

You need to put the love back into your marriage. With the two of you in agreement that you “want to love each other like you did”, nothing can stop you but yourselves. The key is to find a strategy to start.

A marriage encounter weekend is a great idea. You can go back to the beginning of your relationship through discussion and written dialogue. Begin to fan the embers to put the magic of emotional and physical intimacy back into your relationship. After being loving and successful parents, refocus the energy and emotion you selflessly used to help them back into yourselves.

The following are some suggestions to help:

1.  Because it is hard to say things of emotion to each other in person, you can begin to write notes of endearment to each other. If this is too hard, find cards and poems that express your feelings. This type of dialoguing can be most effective.

2.  Try to express feelings of endearment to each other when possible in an attempt to draw closer together. Even if initially awkward, set aside times to do this.

3.  Hug and touch each other in caring ways in an attempt to develop more and more intimacy. You do not know what you have been missing.

4.  Reminisce about when you fell in love and how it felt. Try to rekindle the old feelings. As an old Romberg song goes, “Golden days in the sunshine of our happy     youth”.

5.  Revisit places you were at as lovers that can help bring back the old memories.

6.  Do new things to build a new base where emotional and physical intimacy can develop. You two are in a rut where intimacy has been lacking. A trip to Mackinaw Island, Florida or even a local hotel for the night could be helpful.

7.  Share romantic movies and love ballads together.  Listen to popular music from the past that can conjure up loving memories.

8.  If in spite of your best efforts you cannot bring the old feelings back, you may find an experienced therapist could be helpful.

I would say prognosis is very good for you two. You were great lovers and then became great parents. Now is the time to bring back the intimate emotional and physical love you had and again deserve. Go for it!

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Dr.Braccio: We always try silifke eskort ilanları to give everything we can to our two children and give them opportunities we never had. Granted, we’ve not always gone to as many of their events as our parents did and as we have wanted because of our heavy work schedules, but both of us have always been involved as best we can and try to be around to help. What hurts us is that both children told us that they feel they’re second in our lives and even though they love and appreciate their grandparents, they feel they are asked to do our work. They want us around them more. We’ve tried to talk to them and explain the work situation, but both are not happy with us. Our parents feel we need to slow down in our careers and have more quality time with the kids as they did with us. We wonder if they’re brats or if we’re the problem. What’s wrong here? What’s missing that makes two early teens so upset?

Answer

Let me begin by complimenting you for trying to give every opportunity to your children that you never had. This is a noble goal. What is missing is the bonding with your children that you had with your parents. Ironically, even though you had less, your relationship with your parents was better than what you both have with your children. To have “things” is wonderful, but they do not make up for involved parenting, family bonding and the love that comes from close family relationships.

Your children want more time with both of you. Your parents are right when they say you need more “quality time” with your children. They want you more involved in their lives. They want you at their events and as integral parts of their lives. That they have not chosen peer relationships over both of you is a tribute to your parents and very positive in this day and age. They have worked to maintain the sense of family with your children as they instilled it in both of you. If they were brats, they would want more things and not more time with both of you.

A problem is that you want your parents to take on your role with the children. Your children have a legitimate concern here. Accept this and realize you need to take on the role of active and involved parents now or forever lose this role. Also remember in a few years they will be on their own. If you want a long term close relationship, you need to cement the bonding they obviously want.

You obviously have a strong sense of family and great love for your children. They obviously love both of you. What they are crying out for is more love in the form of your time and less things. To honor their request would be a demonstration of the love you have for them.

A good suggestion would be for you two to examine what is important in life and make plans accordingly. You need to look at your careers and time commitments in relation to family commitments. Finding the balance is a problem for many persons. I am sure your love will give you direction.

Dr. Braccio talks on the “Morning Wake-Up With Dave Akerly” Radio Show on 9/15/15 on WILS, 1320 a.m. in Lansing, Michigan.They discuss how is it possible that human beings ranging from children to chieftains of government and industry can be so excited and emotionally involved in a football game? Anyone in Spartan Stadium on Saturday night for the colossal game between konya merkez escort MSU and Oregon or watching it on national television could not challenge this. What is it that psychologically connects someone who puts a tire on a car and a y wealthy philanthropist like Ambassador Peter Secchia in their love for MSU football? What impact does a game have on one’s mental health? How can a game be important for the mental health of a person? Is this reasonable?

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Dr.Braccio: I’ve been very fortunate over the konya merkez bayan arkadaş years to have the parents of my ex-husband help me raise my two now teenage girls. They’ve been wonderful and treat me like their own daughter. Their father left when they were infants and has nothing to do with his girls and little to do with his parents. His parents are generous and have more than made up for the child support he’s never paid. The problem is that I’m very hurt and upset with the grandmother of the children. In a run-in with my fourteen year old over her curfew, she asked if I wanted to run her out like I did their father. I was shocked and asked her why she said that. She said her grandmother has told her I ran him out. I started crying and said that wasn’t true. My daughter then said she was sorry she said it. I don’t know what to do now. She and her sixteen year old sister both say their grandmother has sometimes said that. They’ve not said anything for fear of hurting my feelings. Their father is an alcoholic and he was abusive to me emotionally and physically and regularly ran around on me. I only divorced him when he left us and moved to Texas with the woman who would become his second wife. Obviously the grandmother knows all this. I’d not talked to the kids about this because I thought it would serve no purpose. I’ve now told them. Was I wrong? Should I confront their grandmother?

ANSWER

You were not wrong. Your daughters are old enough to know what happened to the marriage of their parents. Particularly, when the father has abandoned them.

Assuming the grandmother has said this various times over the years, you were right in a factual and informative manner to explain to your daughters why you divorced their father and what he did to you. They are at an age where this would be appropriate. Hopefully, you did it from the perspective not as a victim but as someone who has overcome it. That is true and a tribute to you.

I would think the father’s absence from their lives would speak volumes on what type of father he is. Good parents stay involved in the lives of their children and bad parents do not.

The fact he lives in Texas and is not involved at all in the lives of his daughters makes the argument you ran him out rather absurd. Even if it were true, are you then to blame for his living in Texas and his total lack of involvement with his children? Rubbish!

I believe you need to confront the grandmother on this. To not do it will most likely lead to escalating anger and hurt in you. It is best for your mental health to address the issue now. The possibilities of resolving it are much greater now than after a possible terrible confrontation where your anger and rage, and hurt could come forward like a raging volcano.

To resolve it in an open fashion will potentially eliminate such statements by her in the future.

Even if horribly inappropriate, and I am not excusing her, parents sometimes make statements to defend the indefensible in their children. Even though hard to do, it would be wise to judge her by how she has treated you and the children over the years more than these unfair comments. By your own words, her caring for you and the children seems genuine when judged by her support over the years.

To separate the unfair and even cruel statements from the years of love and support she has given to you will be hard, but I suggest you try to do it. It appears she has been as loving to the three of you as he has not. This appears to be an inconsistency in an otherwise loving person.

You have now explained to your daughters what happened in the marriage. The fact they did not previously say something so they would not hurt your feelings shows their love for you. That it came out in an angry exchange is unfortunate but understandable.

To whatever level you are comfortable, a spiritual perspective could be helpful to you as you get over this hurt.

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Dr.Braccio; Our daughter kocasinan bayan numaraları will begin her senior year next year. We are very proud of her solid B average as an honors student. Our concern is that all of her friends are honor students who get straight As. She is happy but sometimes complains how many hours she studies. We have advised her to just do her best and not worry. She says she always wants to do better but is not overly critical of her performance. We worry about when her friends will all go off to prestigious schools and she will not. What do you think?

ANSWER

As you said, your daughter “is happy”. She gives every indication of being very successful in life. Getting straight As is wonderful and to be sought after, but success and happiness in life goes to the person who works hard, appreciates success, accepts what one can do, and does not give up. Your daughter is loaded with these qualities.

It is positive your daughter chooses to have friends who strive for academic success. Excellence for her is trying hard and doing her best. The important thing is for your daughter to not negatively compare her grades with others. She must compare her performance with herself and no one else. If she does this, and she apparently does, then happiness and success will be hers her whole lifetime.

Even if she does not get all As, competing with the best in honor classes and getting Bs is arguably better than getting As against less talented and/or committed students. Her hard work in classes will help her do well when going to college. It also is positive and mentally healthy that she “is not critical of her performance”.

If you feel the pressure of life is so heavy on her that her mental health is suffering, then you might talk to her about taking less competitive classes. This does not seem to be the case and it appears she desires to continue as she is. With that said, to keep monitoring her mental health is good parenting. You might feel better and get some good perspective by talking to the school counselor about this situation.

You need to always let her know how proud you are of her hard work and solid academic performance. Make sure your concerns, which might not be hers, do not become her concerns by being negatively influenced by you.

As far as college goes, I am sure she, with your support, will come up with an excellent choice. She may not go to Harvard, but she will predictably go to a fine school, have solid academic success, and have a fine life. She sounds like a delightful young person.

Considering she is taking honors classes and works so hard, you may be surprised the colleges she can go to. You can look into this yourself as well as get information from the high school counselor. Someone like your daughter, if she desires, may end up high on the list of some prestigious colleges.

As a final comment, your daughter, like all children, needs ongoing encouragement and support. Clearly, her desire to succeed is burning brightly for all to see. Be proud of her and your parenting. It is obvious good things are going on in your home.

Dr. Braccio has a fun talk With Jack Ebling and Graham Couch of the Lansing State Journal on “The Drive With Jack Ebling” Radio Show on 6/16/15 on the possible reasons Coach Meyer of Ohio State and Coach Harbaugh of U/M have praised the MSU Football Program.They also discuss the need for MSU to kocasinan olgun bayanlar keep a chip on the shoulder or keep the fire in the belly to continue MSU’s Winning Tradition. They also discuss why Coach Dantonio put the football score of the 2015 MSU/UM game of 35-11 on the Cotton Bowl Championship Ring. Was he rubbing it in?

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Dr. Braccio:     My wife and I are the proud parents of two mature high school teenagers who are doing fine.Our problem is that my income is actually going down silifke eskort ilanları and our increasing costs are causing us to have a hard time financially. We decided years ago to not have my wife work so there is always one parent near. The success of the children convinces us we’ve made the right decision. Now we feel we must change and my wife needs to reenter the work place. She has kept her computer skills up and is marketable. She’s willing but I’m not sure if it’s a good idea. What should we do? I feel somewhat like a loser. My wife says this is not my fault and we’ll be fine.

Answer

You are not a loser and you will be fine. The success of the children and the marriage relate to the decision you both made many years ago. For many people, these are tough economic times. This is only enhanced when you have high school teenagers and something as basic as gas is over two dollars a gallon.

The problem is that your world has changed with your income going down and your expenses going up. That the children are older and mature and your wife is willing and able to work are positive factors if your wife goes back to work.

As a family, talk about what responsibilities each of you has. You need to divide up home responsibilities more effectively if your wife is to work. The children particularly need to know changes will occur. It seems they are mature enough to deal with this. Assuming your wife goes back to work, the next question is the amount of time she will work. Obviously, working part-time is better than full time as far as causing less home disruption. This may not be possible. The children may need to work more and pay more of their own expenses if they do not already.

Even though it is positive to plan for the future in your situation, you two can applaud the success you have had as a family over the years. To raise two mature teenagers doing fine in this day and age is very difficult. You two have done it. This will not change with your wife returning to work. You also need to know that millions of couples both work and are effective as parents and family members.

A positive way to look at this is simply that you wife will work a few years earlier than after the youngest graduates from high school. This is in effect just an earlier beginning of your post “empty nest syndrome” life.

As a final thought, you may find by reducing expenses or taking out a home equity loan or refinancing your home that you wife can stay home until your youngest is out of high school. However, you need to talk to someone versed in finances before you make this type of decision.

Dr. Braccio discusses the Psychology of the Mob as Demonstrated in Baltimore on 4/27/15, on the “Morning Wake Up With Dave Akerly” Radio Show on 4/28/15 on WILS, 1320 a.m. in Lansing, Michigan.They specifically talk about what happens to the psyche of the basically calm and peaceful citizen who becomes a looting and destructive part kocasinan bayan numaraları of the mob.

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Dr. Braccio Talks With Dave Akerly on the WILS Morning Wake Up With Dave Akerly Show on 3/3/15 on 1320 a.m.in Lansing, Michigan konya merkez kadın numaraları about JEALOUSY. I have sadly been involved way too many times in my work as a psychologist where completely false charges of infidelity have destroyed potentially life long loving marriages. As is often the case in English, Shakespeare states it so well:  IT IS THE GREEN EY’D MONSTER,WHICH DOTH MOCK THE MEAT IT FEEDS ON. Jealousy is so insidious, incomprehensible, and hard to overcome that it perplexes even the most perceptive and logical amongst us. Spock himself would be amazed as he saw a human trait that is so illogical. They discuss what Jealousy is and how to overcome it.

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Dr.Braccio Talks With Richard Herl, News Director of WILS, 1320 kocasinan escort a.m. in Lansing on 2/10/15 about how to lead and be a leader when not the manager. They also discuss how not to alienate the manager or co-workers as you offer support and leadership modeling to those around you.

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Dr.Braccio Talks With Tony Conley silifke eskort numaraları of the Tony Conley Radio Show on 1320 a.m., WILS, in Lansing on 2/3/15.  My oh my, how time flies!  It is hard to believe five years of weekly segments are coming to an end. It is a bittersweet event. I am happy for Tony but will miss the segments. He has offered a great service to the community over the years with his superb program. We have talked about so many topics over the years. Included were PSYCHOPATHS/ SOCIOPATHS, ANXIETY, DEPRESSION, PTSD, ADHD, BIPOLAR DISORDER, AUTISM, MASS MURDERERS, TERRORISM, SATIRE and MAJOR PERSONALTIES OF THE DAY. We also have discussed MSU SPORTS COACHES AND PLAYERS FROM MANY PERSPECTIVES. In our last segment together, we discussed the importance of being positive and seeking out the good in life. The power of family love with a spiritual or moral base can be so helpful to individuals in these troubling times.

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